I need some clarification on the use of Lactose
I am going to try to brew a Russian Imperial Stout with the intent to have something more along the lines of a High Gravity/Desserty type beer similar to Bells Batch 9000. I am using a kit recipe and modifying it with a little less hops, adding cocoa and vanilla bean with bourbon and american oak with lactose for body/sweetness. I am very familiar with alcoholic fermentation because I make wine for a living. I will be kegging this beer and the bourbon will be added post fermentation so no need to warn me on the cautionary ABV. I am trying to sort through all the information in my literature and through the grapevine (literally) what I hear about brewing and I am finding what I would consider mixed information on the use of lactose in beer. I understand lactose's use but I see people adding it to the wort instead of the finished beer. I would think that having a non-fermentable sugar would stress the yeast and risk an incomplete or stinky fermentation. Is lactose normally added before or after fermentation and why? Also, any good videos on all-grain brewing?