I use second runnings / Parti-Gyle as often as I can. But as my primary mash efficiency rises theres less and less usefulness in the parti-gyle. As for me using the grains, it's compost or given away for chicken feed.
If your mash efficiency is still below 85% there's still plenty use in the parti-gyle.
I could usually get 5 gallons of 1.025-1.030 parti-gyle wort from a 12 gallon high gravity primary brew mash.
How to:
Slow Fly sparge for primary keeping mash water 1inch above grain. When primary beer is done sparging, stop the fly, stir and let the parti-gyle rest. When done with your primary boil, then batch sparge the parti-gyle wort.
Uses:
Anything bellow 1.020 isn't very useful by its self. Most uses require adding a little DME, grain steep or sugar to bump it to the range you want.
Parti-gyle wort is low gravity and has many historical style uses like scottish-60.
It's great for starter wort. I boil and adjust to 1.040, Then refrigerate and strore in 1 gallon jugs.
It's great for malted ciders /light graffs, I find it even eliminates need to backsweeten. Especially if you steep in malts.
Tips
Don't mash out instead keep sparge around 154°, if you intend to allow the second mash to rest.
Adding a little more grain to second mash helps kick start a second conversion rest.
Add adjuncts to boost gravity.
Boil down to increase gravity. Usually pretty easy to get a fast violent boil since its usually 1/2 your normal volume.
Press the grains as the parti-gyle volaufs. I use a potato masher, works pretty well.
All in all how useful your parti-gyle is depends on a lot of factors and what its used for. I've only touched on the processes and uses as an overview.